tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-62431997374131004292024-03-12T23:25:06.105-04:00byerscrossroadsBrandiBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12014157633972260183noreply@blogger.comBlogger163125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6243199737413100429.post-57227455086751310012011-03-11T11:12:00.004-05:002011-03-11T11:13:20.915-05:00Last PostYes, this last post is just a reminder that we have now moved over to the new blog at:<br /><br /><a href="http://www.byerscrossroads.com/">www.byerscrossroads.com</a><br /><br />Won't you join us over there and continue to follow along our journey? If you still need the password, please email me at <a href="mailto:brandi_byers@yahoo.com">brandi_byers@yahoo.com</a>BrandiBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12014157633972260183noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6243199737413100429.post-49313751918899666102011-03-10T12:17:00.004-05:002011-03-10T12:23:58.136-05:00I just cannot believe itEveryday we are getting closer. It feels real, but sort of not. I have lived and breathed adoption for 2 years now. It just seems weird that it's actually coming close to happening to us. I have watched it happen so many times to other folks, prayed with them, cried with them. And I knew *one day* it would happen to us. <br /><br />Someone pinch me. Is it possible I may be meeting my son this time next month? I just don't have anything to compare to what I am feeling right now. Happy, joyful, scared, <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">anxious</span>, fearful, excited. My husband kept asking how excited I was as he walks around with a <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-error">permagrin</span> on his face these last couple of days. I am very excited, but it just doesn't feel real yet. I lay awake at night and think of him always. I cannot remember now who said it, but someone compared their kiddo to a superstar, like you've been staring at these pictures and all of this stuff for months, what do you do when you finally meet them? I mean, what would Reece do if she met Justin <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-error">Bie</span>*er? Sorry, I'm all over the place today and I have no idea how to put this all in words!!!BrandiBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12014157633972260183noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6243199737413100429.post-36813106822608384132011-03-09T15:10:00.005-05:002011-03-09T15:21:06.585-05:00Yup, your reading the right blog, EP Approval!!!!On that day when I thought I could not bear the "no news" wait anymore. When I was literally outside sweeping leaves with a broom to keep myself busy (no kidding, ask my husband who was watching me like I was crazy outside our living room window), we finally get the email we've been praying so hard for....EP APPROVAL!!!<br /><br />So your thinking, great, now what? Well more waiting of course! You didn't think it would be that quick did you?! Here is the breakdown of what still needs to happen:<br /><br /><strong>Embassy Appearance</strong>: Where he will get his adorable visa photo done. Could happen this week, but by next week for sure.<br /><br /><strong>Visa Physical</strong>: This is done at an outside hospital. They do these in batches every week. At the beginning of the year these were being done very quickly, but lately it's taken some groups a month to get an appointment. Let's pray that we get an appointment before a month! Our agency seems to think 3 weeks at the most for this. I hope she's her normal pessimestic self :-) She will let us know as soon as we get our appointment and I will pass along that good news!<br /><br /><strong>Visa Interview</strong>: For the life of me I cannot imagine what kind of interview they do for a one year old. I think it's just something that needs to be done in person to make sure everything is in order. This is something they track at USCIS, so I hope they are getting ready for my weekly phone calls to see if this has happened yet :-)<br /><br />Once this is all together, then we will get the all important travel call!! We will then have 10 days to book our travel and hotel and get our butts in gear to go get our son (not that I haven't been packed up since February)! Our agency is tellling us 4-5 weeks until travel call. I'm continuing to pray for travel call this month, but I am just excited that I can finally say with confidence that I will see my son next month! :-)<br /><br />Also, just another reminder that I will be no longer posting to this blog after Friday. If you want to continue along our journey, please move over to:<br /><br /><a href="http://www.byerscrossroads.com/">www.byerscrossroads.com</a><br /><br />All of our posts will be password protected, so please email me or leave a comment if you would like the password to follow along!BrandiBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12014157633972260183noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6243199737413100429.post-23467225052990627482011-03-03T12:48:00.004-05:002011-03-03T13:00:57.471-05:00When I get downI get really down. It's no mystery that this adoption has <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">definitely</span> taken it's toll on my mood. I checked my email last night and was completely trying to hold my screams down when I saw an email from our agency. "This is it! This is the <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP</span> approval email we have been waiting for so long! Asher is on his way to coming home!" I collected myself enough to manage to click the email. <br /><br />Imagine the drop in my soul when I realize they are telling me that our fingerprints expire on April 11<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-error">th</span> (do not even get me started on why fingerprints expire) and they are suggesting that we get these redone because we may not be traveling by then. Not traveling by April 11<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_3" class="blsp-spelling-error">th</span>. I just read those words over and over again. And I cried. Again. I cannot fathom not having our travel call by April 11<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_4" class="blsp-spelling-error">th</span>. I have no idea what is taking so long with this batch of <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_5" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP's</span> we are in. We had our hopes so high for traveling in March and realistically that is probably not going to happen. I am trying to be positive. Reading my scripture for support. Putting on my smiley face. It's all about being graceful in the wait. Understanding that it WILL happen. That I have no control over this. But then I have to remind myself that it's <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_6" class="blsp-spelling-error">ok</span> to be sad and disappointed about it. It doesn't mean that I don't believe any less. It doesn't mean that I am throwing a pity party for myself. I don't have to beat myself up for being sad. It's <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_7" class="blsp-spelling-error">ok</span>.<br /><br />So, I am letting myself feel this disappointment so that I can just move on. Point blank, this sucks. Yes, I am thankful that Asher is being taken care of. Yes, I am thankful for how far we've come. Yes, I know that there is an end in sight. But today, I'm just morning my boy. It physically hurts that we are not together (migraine from hell last night). <br /><br />Just so you know, I'm feeling better today and praying for a more positive week next week. I was told 5 weeks at the most for <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_8" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP</span> approval and Monday will be 5 weeks of waiting for us. It's got to happen next week. I'm taking hope in that.BrandiBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12014157633972260183noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6243199737413100429.post-23642328195055415732011-03-01T13:49:00.004-05:002011-03-01T14:29:02.761-05:00Price drop!!As ladies, don't we just love those two words? No seriously. I do. Things have changed a lot around here the last few years, and for the better I might add in the finance department. We started our family very young (as in I graduated from college almost 5 months <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-error">preggers</span> with <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-error">Kyleigh</span>), so we never really had a "nest" built up you wouldn't say. Tack on 3 different student loans, car payment, mortgage, credit cards, groceries, utilities, etc. and it was a recipe for disaster. We spent a couple of really hard years just floating through all of it. But, we made it through and live to tell the tale. Once I got into a decent paying job, things seemed to level out a bit, but it doesn't mean we were any better really with being responsible with our money, we just had more of it to spend. Again, we would put things on our credit card or eat out just because or I would feel the need to "treat" myself to that pedicure every week or so. When I started working from home, things changed a bit and seriously took a turn when I started toying with the idea of quitting my job and staying at home. <br /><br />I took out my highlighter one month and just went through and organized our expenses for a month and I couldn't believe how much we spent on just eating out alone. Yes, I worked late a lot and was so overwhelmed at that time with everything going on and eating out was SO much easier, but still. You just get a bad feeling in the pit of your stomach when you sit and break things out like that. It's so easy with debit cards to not really see where your money is going until you get that monthly statement. A change was going to have to be in order if I was seriously considering quitting my job and staying at home. We had already begun a year ago to only use our credit card for online purchases or emergencies and cut up any other ones we still had. We cut out eating lunches out. Cut out eating dinners out 3-4 nights a week. Cut out shopping at the mall just because and really started looking for deals. <br /><br />It started out as a tool to see if our family could afford one income, but it became so much more. I just couldn't believe how much money we wasted before we started using coupons and shopping smarter. I swear I would not be able to sleep at night if we spent money like we did back then! I feel guilty for buying anything without a coupon now! Of course you can take it too far and get obsessed with <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-error">couponing</span> (there are some crazy folks out there online!), but for the most part, we have saved an incredible amount of money on everything from groceries to clothes to <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_3" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">toiletries</span> and diapers. In fact, I've not paid full price for any pack of diapers we have for Asher and after over 18 months of buying diapers, we are pretty stocked up! <br /><br />I wanted to share a few tools I use with everyone. Below are just a few sites that I check out for coupons and deals. Depending upon what stores are in your area, you might find a site that works for you! We also get a Sunday paper and have signed up for several coupon sites (<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_4" class="blsp-spelling-error">groupon</span>, etc.) which lets us get deals for half price! Hope you guys enjoy!!!<br /><br /><a href="http://www.southernsavers.com/">http://www.southernsavers.com</a><br /><a href="http://www.moneysavingmom.com/">http://www.moneysavingmom.com</a><br /><a href="http://www.thethriftycouple.com/">http://www.thethriftycouple.com</a><br /><a href="http://www.becentsable.net/">http://www.becentsable.net</a><br /><a href="http://www.mycouponteacher.com/">http://www.mycouponteacher.com</a><br /><a href="http://www.budgetsavingmom.com/">http://www.budgetsavingmom.com</a><br /><a href="http://www.momsbyheart.net/">http://www.momsbyheart.net</a><br /><a href="http://www.smartcouponing.com/">http://www.smartcouponing.com</a><br /><a href="http://www.passionforsavings.com/">http://www.passionforsavings.com</a><br /><a href="http://www.freestufftimes.com/">http://www.freestufftimes.com</a><br /><a href="http://www.dealfindingchik.blogspot.com/">http://www.dealfindingchik.blogspot.com</a><br /><a href="http://www.happyhomemakercindy.com/">http://www.happyhomemakercindy.com</a><br /><a href="http://www.savingdollarsandsense.com/">http://www.savingdollarsandsense.com</a><br /><br />I have signed up for email deals on the following sites:<br /><br /><a href="http://www.groupon.com/">http://www.groupon.com</a><br /><a href="http://www.livingsocial.com/">http://www.livingsocial.com</a><br /><br />If you have a favorite restaurant or clothing store, sign up for their emails. I regularly get coupons for Old Navy, Gap, Children's Place, Kohl's and restaurants like Friday's, <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_5" class="blsp-spelling-error">Quiznos</span>, Ruby Tuesdays, etc. I want to say at least once a week I get a coupon from each of these places!<br /><br />I also do some online survey taking. You are in no way going to get rich from this, but the points sure come in handy around Christmas....and when you have to re-buy all of your baby stuff years later! We haven't paid full price for any baby items we had to buy for Asher! I rack up the points from survey taking and cash them in for gift cards for Amazon, etc. Several Christmas presents were bought this way this past Christmas and I'm hoping between these and the twice a year toy mark down at Target (look for this in January and July...toys marked down 30-75% off!!), our Christmas will be paid for in full and at half price :-)<br /><br /><a href="http://www.swagbucks.com/">http://www.swagbucks.com</a><br /><a href="http://www.mypoints.com/">http://www.mypoints.com</a><br /><a href="http://www.i-say.com/">http://www.i-say.com</a><br /><a href="http://www.opinionoutpost.com/">http://www.opinionoutpost.com</a><br /><a href="http://www.globaltestmarket.com/">http://www.globaltestmarket.com</a><br /><br />So pretty much now we either buy it on sale, with coupon, on sale with coupon (which we LOVE) or we just don't buy it at all. I've learned to be patient and wait things out (oh the patience I've had to learn these last couple of years!). Hope these sites help some of you guys out and happy deal hunting! I know my coupons for Old Navy are about to be used to get some much needed Spring clothing around here :-)BrandiBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12014157633972260183noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6243199737413100429.post-20825372649458144132011-02-27T12:21:00.005-05:002011-02-27T12:39:57.138-05:00An ongoing reminderSo I am incredibly excited to see some warm weather this way. I am one of those folks that their mood is affected by the weather and just this weekend has made the biggest difference to be out in the sunshine. It brings a much needed smile to my face. I mean, I smile all of the time...and I have plenty to smile about. <br /><br />I have two beautiful daughters to call my own, a seriously wonderful husband, shelter and plenty of food, great friends and family. Our family is healthy and all of our needs are met. The only thing missing now is our son. I smile everyday because I feel so thankful and sometimes overwhelmed by all of it. <br /><br />It's taken me a lot to understand that it's <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">OK</span> for me to be happy and to let myself feel joy. Sometimes I would feel guilty and sorrowful about other folk's situations and not allow myself to feel happy or sometimes I would let old ghosts from the past haunt how I felt about things. And the adoption...it's so much easier than I thought it would be to really focus on the negative (meaning we still don't have Asher home and have absolutely no answer or information as to when that might happen) than to remember all of the positives of this. <br /><br />I've learned a lot of lessons and sadly I'm so stubborn I've learned most of them the hard way. As much as this hurts everyday to not have my son home, I'm ultimately thankful for the wait. At some point, I quit putting on my "poker face" of everything being <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">OK</span> and realized that it really was. All of this wait is for a purpose. Maybe mine, maybe Asher's, maybe someone <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-error">else's</span>. But either way, I know I've learned so much about how my mental outlook affects my life, about how I depend on my husband and my Savior for support, about how I portray my situation to others. <br /><br />I feel like I've posted on this so many times, but this is a process if I'm being honest here. I've learned adoption is and just being a Christian is. I do not wake up every morning always with unfailing confidence. I continue to make mistakes even when I am trying my best. I need constant reminders that I do not need to depend (or stalk!) information or updates from others or be anxious about how long things are taking. I cannot worry about how or why things have slowed down. Worrying gets me nowhere. What I can do is to remind myself that even though I have no information and I feel completely out of control here, that is <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_3" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">OK</span>. It's all being taken care of. The only thing I need to do is be still and wait and have patience in the good things that are in store. I need to push out those old feelings of anxiety, fear, stress. I need to replace them with joyful expectation and faith. I need to get off of the Holt boards and go play in the dirt with my kids. I need to let it go and have real peace with it. I really needed this reminder after last week and I continue to pray for all of my adoption buddies that are waiting on referrals, I-600 approvals, <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_4" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP</span> approvals and travel calls. I hope we all see movement this week, but if not, that we find peace in whatever comes.BrandiBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12014157633972260183noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6243199737413100429.post-46567566661738370282011-02-25T12:47:00.004-05:002011-02-25T13:06:51.160-05:00I am going private in the next two weeks...We have come so far in this adoption journey and I want to be able to share pictures and updates, so in two weeks on March 11<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-error">th</span> I will release a new blog. Everyone will be able to access the blog, but you will need our password to view the posts as they will be protected. I have left information such as Asher's timeline and our basic family information for everyone to see as I found viewing other blogs during this adoption process has been incredibly helpful. It's bittersweet to make everything private, but I know we need to protect Asher's privacy until he is an <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">official</span> US citizen!<br /><br />The reason I am posting this now is I am going to compile a list of folks and their email addresses so I can send you the new blog address and password to view. I have made so many great friends through this process along with so many of my already wonderful friends and I hope that you all will continue to follow us along this journey!<br /><br />On adoption progress note...I wish I had <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP</span> approval news to share, but I don't. It's been a really disappointing week between Asher's birthday and no <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_3" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP</span> approval, but we are staying strong in knowing that it's all in God's hands and we will be united with our son soon!!BrandiBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12014157633972260183noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6243199737413100429.post-70476381222198522622011-02-21T12:59:00.006-05:002011-02-21T13:27:04.345-05:00Working through the emotionsSo, today is hard. There is nothing soft and easy about it. Today my friends is Asher's first birthday. And he is turning one without us.<br /><div></div><br /><div>When we started this process, we thought for sure we would have our son/daughter home by their first birthday. God has other plans. I was having lunch with a fellow adoption buddy I met through church on Friday and we were talking about our timing versus God's timing. I would have had this happen so many times already, but every time that "date" in my head passes without anything to show for it I am sad yes, but there is always a reason for the wait. Maybe it was a heart change that needed to happen or maybe a connection that needed to be made or something that needed to happen for Asher and his Foster Family. Sometimes I know what these reasons are and sometimes the time passes and I don't have a clue. </div><div></div><br /><div>While I have swallowed back a couple of tears today (and last night), I'm trying to stay focused that my time lines aren't always right. Seriously, so far my plans have paled in comparison. I am sad we didn't get to share this special time with him. I wish he was home. But I know his foster family has given him a wonderful celebration and I just hope they took bunches of pictures!!!</div><div></div><br /><div>We did celebrate last night by going out for Korean and it was delish! We had dumplings, galbi (Korean marinated short ribs), bulgogi (marinated *spicy* chicken), bunches of side dishes I had no clue what their names were and bibimbap (which is a vegetable, beef and rice mixture with spicy red soybean mixture). We were worried if the girls would like it, but they loved it! Our nice waitress even brought more of one of the mystery side dishes because Reece literally ate the entire thing :-)</div><div></div><br /><div>I really tried not to cry, but I have to admit I got teary eyed on the way home. Of course what comes on the radio but that darn "While I'm waiting" song to just make matters even worse! We got a birthday cake for Asher and sang him Happy Birthday and the girls' blew out his candle for him. I couldn't get through the song without tearing up, so I "conveniently" had something to clean up while they were doing this :-(</div><div></div><br /><div>While I am still sad today, I am at peace. This is out of my hands and has been from the beginning. I'm praying for peace and understanding. I'm praying that we hear something tomorrow about EP approvals. If we can get our EP approval this month, there is a great chance we will travel in March. I hope we get some great news for Asher's birthday week tomorrow!!!!! <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEip57M2xwZWRuiklCrSMA9WiImrdOc4qNgbaCPHdPrUTTBjZf7nF-6lCKNEoYM7xUTVs8sks6qitqCOcdBmZjFN_cLBOeslDRJZT7xtnEIwNtQ40bZ_d9gSzvGVHL7tvSS5U2Ql6-TnR-o/s1600/110.JPG"><img style="WIDTH: 320px; HEIGHT: 240px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5576210759893031522" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEip57M2xwZWRuiklCrSMA9WiImrdOc4qNgbaCPHdPrUTTBjZf7nF-6lCKNEoYM7xUTVs8sks6qitqCOcdBmZjFN_cLBOeslDRJZT7xtnEIwNtQ40bZ_d9gSzvGVHL7tvSS5U2Ql6-TnR-o/s320/110.JPG" /></a></div>BrandiBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12014157633972260183noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6243199737413100429.post-45966456335177731312011-02-16T15:07:00.004-05:002011-02-16T15:15:02.214-05:00Tonight while our family is sleepingKorea is fast at work. The 14 hour time difference right now is nice because they are always a day ahead, so it feels like I get news faster.<br /><br />We found out on Monday that the <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP</span> group ahead of us got their approval. Yup, we are next in line! I'm praying, hoping, wishing, begging for our approval this week! The holiday at the beginning of the month slowed things down a bit, but I really hope they are back to cranking things out. I'm still holding onto hope that I will open my email on Friday or Monday and see those wonderful "Your <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP</span> has been approved" words. I've been taking comfort in knowing that while I sleep, so much is happening there....because let's be honest here, I'm looking for anything I can to hold onto during this wait :-)<br /><br />After <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP</span> approval, then Asher will have his Embassy Appearance, Visa Physical and Visa Interview before he will be completely ready for travel. I'm still trying to figure out the process for those things over there. I know some agencies will do these before <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_3" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP</span> approval is even given, but I'm not sure about Holt. I'm thinking everything is done after <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_4" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP</span> approval. And I've been told that they batch the physicals as well, so I'm not sure about that and we may have to wait until they do another batch. I'm praying that some of this stuff has already been done and that we will not run into anymore bumps in the road bringing this little guy home! After <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_5" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP</span> approval, we are looking at 4/5 weeks until travel call. Fingers crossed it's sooner!BrandiBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12014157633972260183noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6243199737413100429.post-3796895004171325942011-02-10T11:35:00.003-05:002011-02-10T11:38:44.055-05:00I'm going private soon!So I just recently found out that I can show off all of the pictures I want as long as my blog is private...what am I waiting for! I am trying now to figure out how to set this darn thing up or if I need to create a new one all together (if anyone has any advice on this I would greatly appreciate it!!!), so it will be another week or two I'm sure, but I wanted to give everyone a heads up.<br /><br />I have really enjoyed being able to openly follow other blogs and make all of the friendships I have through them, but I don't want to wait another 6 months after Asher is home to post his pictures! I will give everyone notice if you want to continue to follow and hopefully will have this all set up before we get our travel call :-)BrandiBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12014157633972260183noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6243199737413100429.post-81674934429704036532011-02-09T13:49:00.004-05:002011-02-09T13:56:32.014-05:00EP Submission!!!!So I finally heard back from my agency..... <br /><br />First of all, Asher is doing much better, which puts my heart at ease. I felt so unsettled not knowing what was going on. So thankful again for such a wonderful foster family!!<br /><br />Secondly, they sent 3 absolutely adorable pictures of Asher! I cannot believe how big he has gotten. He truly looks like a toddler now (his birthday is coming up on the 21st). I'm so thankful to have these pictures. They make the wait not feel so horrible.<br /><br />Thirdly, our <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP</span> submission has already happened! We figured it would be later this month, but thankfully it happened on January 31st! Korea was fast moving in January with these <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP</span> submissions and approvals, but with the new year holiday last week, it seems things have slowed back down. There is one <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP</span> set in front of us waiting for approval. I'm praying they get their approval this week and we get our approval next week! <br /><br />If we can get our <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_3" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP</span> approval in the next 2 weeks, there is a good chance we will still get to travel next month. There are still a couple of steps after <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_4" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP</span> approval (visa interview, embassy appearance, etc.) that need to happen, but normally these are wrapped up within the month. Holt does batch the physicals for these kiddos, so that might slow us up if we miss being included in a batch, but hopefully most of the large road blocks are out of the way now.<br /><br />It's crazy to think this time next month we might be on a plane to go get our son! Thanks everyone so much for all of your thoughts and prayers!BrandiBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12014157633972260183noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6243199737413100429.post-5354251837901032322011-02-07T12:13:00.004-05:002011-02-07T12:25:08.107-05:00Reece made me think about a bigger bedSo I've had sleep a lot on my mind in anticipation of Asher coming. I'm mentally trying to prepare myself for the nights without sleep again...and my husband, who doesn't seem to be worried about it so much. Maybe because you could put a <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">blow horn</span> to his head at night and he won't move. Let's see how a screaming 1 year old works :-)<br /><br /><span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-error">Kyleigh</span> has always been pretty good about sleep. She slept through the night pretty early as a baby and we never really had any issues until she was 3. She had a bad dream one night and we let her in our bed...which turned into two nights, 3....you get the drift. It took months to get her to sleep back in her own bed alone. She would go to bed and then sneak in our bed in the middle of the night. I am a very light sleeper, so I would usually wake up, but she got very sneaky and more times than not I would wake with her in my back. Luckily now she is awesome about bedtime and goes right to bed promptly at 8:30.<br /><br />Reece on the other hand has never been a sleeper. Like ever. She gave up naps at 2. Yeah. All those moms that would talk about the stuff they would get done during 3 hour nap times I never had that wonderful notion. She still doesn't sleep. She fights bedtime every night still. We *start* at 8/8:30. Starting earlier doesn't work any better I will add first. We tried <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">earlier</span> and it just means fighting for longer periods of time. It's usually a 40 minute ordeal before she finally gives up and stays in her room. We hear every excuse...I'm hot, I'm thirsty, I'm not tired, I cannot hear my radio, etc. etc. etc. And she's up in the middle of the night too. Yup, sneaks in our bedroom just like <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_3" class="blsp-spelling-error">Kyleigh</span> did. On average 3 nights out of the week I wake up next to her. She is vocal about not liking sleep. She asked me this weekend if God had to go to sleep and I told her God wasn't like us and really didn't have a bedtime. "well, when I grow up I want to be God then so I don't have to sleep". Yes folks, this is our Reece a <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_4" class="blsp-spelling-error">roni</span> :-)<br /><br />So, I know Asher's sleep <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_5" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">transition</span> is going to take some time. I'm trying to decide how to tackle things to have a game plan, but I also know it depends greatly on Asher's <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_6" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">grieving</span> and also what he is used to. I'm sure we will co-sleep for a while...but I bought a crib with purpose, so I'm hoping in a few months we will be able to transition him over. I think everyone does better when they get a good night's sleep in their *own* bed!!<br /><br />Any sleep advice or tips to share?BrandiBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12014157633972260183noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6243199737413100429.post-27277750424809683862011-02-05T20:05:00.009-05:002011-02-05T20:25:30.803-05:00Fun at Marbles Museum!!<div><div><div><div><div>You know, we've been here for 6 months and we hadn't checked out the children's museum, so we decided last weekend as a girl's day out we were going to go! We were there for 6 hours and they had a blast! I'm seriously thinking of getting a family membership, especially to have somewhere to go this summer and with Asher as well to play indoors on rainy days. Here are some pictures from all of our fun :-)<br /></div><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjhN2rDtAmQbC95jXOPeUfxXdZljUyYTeJd9P3QheKHLPowh1Hk9KawRD7skIgelVDnNpI-GOIgG_LPp3Q1xbj2klEF9llE6EnXxQ2HSj0wZ2EROPju8ct9rLDpmp5o3MWjT_lfpxeKinY/s1600/086.JPG"><img style="WIDTH: 320px; HEIGHT: 240px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5570377757119159426" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjhN2rDtAmQbC95jXOPeUfxXdZljUyYTeJd9P3QheKHLPowh1Hk9KawRD7skIgelVDnNpI-GOIgG_LPp3Q1xbj2klEF9llE6EnXxQ2HSj0wZ2EROPju8ct9rLDpmp5o3MWjT_lfpxeKinY/s320/086.JPG" /></a><br /><span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-error">Kyleigh</span> wouldn't come out to perform on stage, but you know Reece will put on a show!</div><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhoNalrChg2UOGp4qzeOgMisk2PZlMUqkus4ZZQDP5PBwd_HD-sG4BomshaBzKwgqrf9nDJq_5WRYCGTutlq-XkjT-g_byhxZpqEnNZf4b9lWstre_r1Y4X1uacr65nI01mTDuHV9sjnac/s1600/093.JPG"><img style="WIDTH: 320px; HEIGHT: 240px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5570378504902819794" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhoNalrChg2UOGp4qzeOgMisk2PZlMUqkus4ZZQDP5PBwd_HD-sG4BomshaBzKwgqrf9nDJq_5WRYCGTutlq-XkjT-g_byhxZpqEnNZf4b9lWstre_r1Y4X1uacr65nI01mTDuHV9sjnac/s320/093.JPG" /></a><br />Here I am behind the camera holding my heart watching them set up water play with a sweet </div><div>Korean cutie</div><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiSSU8KDxpYDv5v9elry8uhwKLLdrEVTqSzqN8BtsldEAOEDtOEldkEbWMvBTqPhPLHroD14zXLjePPl1tHX8xikBi-jw1WiyxQWxrLjaitdpyouHW-hI0QFrFxO0hAwcLZ8DIlUitmisQ/s1600/098.JPG"><img style="WIDTH: 320px; HEIGHT: 240px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5570379261529467666" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiSSU8KDxpYDv5v9elry8uhwKLLdrEVTqSzqN8BtsldEAOEDtOEldkEbWMvBTqPhPLHroD14zXLjePPl1tHX8xikBi-jw1WiyxQWxrLjaitdpyouHW-hI0QFrFxO0hAwcLZ8DIlUitmisQ/s320/098.JPG" /></a><br />Reece delivering the pizza she made :-)<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhTdTE8jtO91DSm1c9BP1TFQadzApNlxOySf7or9-nkUkkuBXNrYHgPOX_cx8jT4wj8EVr7mOXDQ4UJQG1LCGbC6MG_2DK1ENFXDo_FM2W-i7i-SLYB950CM50V8v3isqy6AiUM_-jXYdY/s1600/105.JPG"><img style="WIDTH: 320px; HEIGHT: 240px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5570379919872699298" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhTdTE8jtO91DSm1c9BP1TFQadzApNlxOySf7or9-nkUkkuBXNrYHgPOX_cx8jT4wj8EVr7mOXDQ4UJQG1LCGbC6MG_2DK1ENFXDo_FM2W-i7i-SLYB950CM50V8v3isqy6AiUM_-jXYdY/s320/105.JPG" /></a><br />Got to love that smile!<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjtaX8V6hTo3gh2FT_9Et-jAOQqvInM21ENwDRixhkmRMZ2d29_lHxpNlGNtO2X6lZLrIvnMQ6GtUNChytOVeYv1qr9YmuNOUVF7NhBr_UPayRR3dagqqNZB4I4Qrs0Bx8BOKlHPkoj_1E/s1600/110.JPG"><img style="WIDTH: 320px; HEIGHT: 240px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5570380444758101234" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjtaX8V6hTo3gh2FT_9Et-jAOQqvInM21ENwDRixhkmRMZ2d29_lHxpNlGNtO2X6lZLrIvnMQ6GtUNChytOVeYv1qr9YmuNOUVF7NhBr_UPayRR3dagqqNZB4I4Qrs0Bx8BOKlHPkoj_1E/s320/110.JPG" /></a></div>Reece working hard cutting her wood<br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjUmxpIMgxNTms9mtQpi39OZVncBhxWw_eDxvfPFFhklUGGpvH4JxInDPkiTySC6JNu1xo74EcVgOEAHToXLDA9b-Vi23Dg8pb2ShyxYPqk_vk0eAnFjbx7KirMcuT1sh7M5nuIoNOLmk0/s1600/115.JPG"><img style="WIDTH: 320px; HEIGHT: 240px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5570381056346679570" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjUmxpIMgxNTms9mtQpi39OZVncBhxWw_eDxvfPFFhklUGGpvH4JxInDPkiTySC6JNu1xo74EcVgOEAHToXLDA9b-Vi23Dg8pb2ShyxYPqk_vk0eAnFjbx7KirMcuT1sh7M5nuIoNOLmk0/s320/115.JPG" /></a></div><div>Showing off the <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">mannequins</span> they turned into models</div></div></div></div></div>BrandiBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12014157633972260183noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6243199737413100429.post-73665047059059650052011-02-04T11:53:00.004-05:002011-02-04T12:01:29.277-05:00How can I put into words how much I love him?So my husband rocks. Seriously. This man is a saint. Valentine's is coming up and I am racking my brain trying to think of something to do. This past year he has been incredible, supportive, my best friend, a shoulder to cry on when I needed it and my strength. <br /><br />You know, every year and <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">every time</span> we have something big happen in our lives, I just cannot imagine loving him more, and yet I do. I think back 13 years ago when we met and I would have never imagined our lives now. And to top it all off, we are going on our first date since September tonight! I'm not normally a huge NBA basketball fan, but Bobby absolutely loves basketball! This will be the 2<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-error">nd</span> time we will go see King James play (Bobcats v/s Heat), so he is pretty excited. Let's hope that 5 hr energy drink kicks in for that late 3 hour drive home!!!<br /><br />His mom is coming to stay with the kids tonight and they are completely excited. We are really lucky to have family close to us again. This weekend will likely be a blur as we have two birthday parties on top of everything else and have to get all of these valentines done. And Bobby got Asher's dresser put together and mounted to the wall so guess who gets to wash and put away clothes this weekend? I've never been more excited to do laundry!<br /><br />Hope you all have a great weekend and prayers for some good news next week!!!!!BrandiBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12014157633972260183noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6243199737413100429.post-33347998634691477012011-02-02T16:23:00.004-05:002011-02-02T16:34:41.425-05:00When they are gone...the house is really quiet. really quiet. Sometimes too quiet and I'd rather hear them fighting even. All that quiet leaves me to my own thoughts. These days that has not been a very good thing with all of the waiting for Asher. Today I wondered how my days will be once Asher is home. How different it will be. No more weekly schedule for cleaning (yes, I am a complete dork and have this). <br /><br />Chores may fall behind. I'm almost certain laundry will. And I love it. You know why? Because I will be doing more important things. Like getting to know my son. I am incredibly blessed to be able to stay at home with him and I never take that for granted. And as crazy as it's going to be this summer with all of them home, I cannot wait to be home with all of my kids. I'm so happy this year that I can say that instead of saying "I wonder if we will be all together this summer". It's been awesome to think about summer plans and include Asher. Because he will be home this summer. Oh yeah!<br /><br />It's been a rough week honestly. On Monday I opened my mail expecting to find the usual junk mail and <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">ridiculously</span> high electric bill, but instead there was a document from my agency. It was a hospital report for Asher...dated January 11<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-error">th</span>. Yup, Monday was February. Seems our little guy is back to his respiratory issues and had to go back to the hospital. I was initially upset that he was sick again...and then upset that we were finding out 3 weeks later....then upset that no one called to tell us or even emailed and just mailed something like that...and then upset that we had no follow up. At all. I don't know how serious it was. I don't know if he's fine now. I.know.nothing.<br /><br />I didn't call on Monday. I was incredibly upset. I waited until Tuesday to call when I wasn't so emotional to speak to our agency. They apologized for mailing something like that without a call or email and she said she would send an email to Korea and try and find out how he is doing now. Of course I also took this opportunity to ask about <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP's</span>, but she said she still didn't know anything and they never contacted her back from an email she said she sent 3 weeks before. I pushed again. Hey, don't judge me. This is my son. We need him home! So, she says she is going to email again. I know with the Lunar New Year, Korea is on holiday the rest of this week, so I am praying we hear something next week.<br /><br />Please pray that Asher is better. Please pray that we get some good news that his <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_3" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP</span> has been submitted so we can bring him home hopefully in March before I lose my mind!BrandiBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12014157633972260183noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6243199737413100429.post-76724859112452024762011-01-28T10:19:00.003-05:002011-01-28T11:17:32.241-05:00Out of the millions of orphansAsher, God chose YOU to be our son. Sometimes I get caught up in this wait, how long it's been, how far my patience and faith have been stretched. But I am forgetting the most important thing of all.....God is in control. Not me. <br /><br />As January comes to an end soon, I have to admit it's been the toughest month yet. There have been incredible highs, and lows. I've cried, I've laughed, been mad, happy, thankful and angry all at the same time. I've prayed for understanding, for patience, for peace. The more I pray for these things, the more and more my eyes are opened to certain scriptures that He lays on my heart:<br /><br /><strong>Psalms 68:6</strong>: "God sets the <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">lonely</span> in families"<br /><br /><strong>Psalms 27:14</strong>: "Wait on the LORD: be of good courage; and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the Lord"<br /><br /><strong>Psalms 68:5</strong>: "A father to the fatherless, and a defender of the widows, is God in his holy habitation"<br /><br /><strong>Philippians 4:6</strong>: "In nothing be anxious, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be known to God"<br /><br /><strong>2 Samuel 22:33</strong>: "God is my strong fortress. He makes my way perfect."<br /><br /><strong>John 16:33</strong>: "I have told you these things, that in me you may have peace. In the world you have oppression; but cheer up! I have overcome the world."<br /><br /><strong>Psalms 146:9</strong>: "The Lord takes care of those who are in a strange land; he gives help to the widow and the child who has no father"<br /><br />I've found that I'll say several of these many many times a day. The moment I start to wonder or get upset because we've not heard anything. The moment I feel sad because we will miss his first birthday. The moment I feel so disheartened and out of control. I say these words of truth. These are things that are clearly spoken to us. I do not have to worry about when Asher will be home, because God sets the lonely in families and He is in control. Everyday I wait my faith is <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">straighten</span> in the Lord. God is a father to the fatherless and wants nothing more than Asher to be forever with us. God is on our side. He is working even when we feel like nothing is happening. Even while we sleep. Even while we go about our everyday lives, God is working out Asher's wonderful journey. I do not have to worry. I will continue to pray knowing He hears my prayers. He knows my heart. He sees the end when I cannot. He is watching over Asher. I may not be able to do anything to get him home, but God can, and will. With Him anything is possible. I trust His will. I trust His timing.<br /><br />Thank you Lord for opening my eyes again to the bigger picture. This wonderful journey we've all been on. Thank you for giving us the boldness to live it out. Thank you for making us wait so that we would have Asher as our son. Thank you for all of the preparations you are working through now. We wait in peace and rejoice in everyday, with news or not, because it brings us closer to our son.BrandiBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12014157633972260183noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6243199737413100429.post-91670974119734551292011-01-22T16:44:00.004-05:002011-01-22T17:02:29.043-05:00Just a rough week, that's allI am now able to blog about this past week. boy it was a rough one. Two words...travel call. Well, lack there of.<br /><br />I know, I know...we haven't been waiting as long as some families have for their travel call. Before I even begin this post, I want to say that no matter how long we wait, I am incredibly grateful and thankful for this entire adoption process. I am in no way bitter towards anyone or anything. Just sad really. <br /><br />So, when speaking to our agency back in December concerning <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP's</span> (if you remember from my earlier posts, Korea ran out of <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP's</span>-permits that our kiddos need to leave the country and come home-and everyone was *patiently* waiting for January 1st so they could start submitting them again), she told us that Holt prioritizes waiting children (Asher is from Rainbow kids) and she said we should be in that first batch. Our agency doesn't get notification of when or what families are submitted for <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP</span>, but I've been following the Holt boards to watch this information. A batch was submitted on the 4<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_3" class="blsp-spelling-error">th</span> and 11<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_4" class="blsp-spelling-error">th</span>. I was so excited! There has been 4 or 5 other friends I've made along the way and we were all in the same boat in this waiting process. <br /><br />So on Tuesday, there was action all over the boards and <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_5" class="blsp-spelling-error">fac</span>*book of folks getting <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_6" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP</span> approvals and travel calls! I was so excited! This little boy I've prayed for and love so much would be coming home!! I thought for sure that we were in that group going by what our agency said, so I was literally waiting by my phone. Ready to make that call to our family and friends. Ready to feel that completion after almost 2 years of waiting. Ready to know that we were finally bringing our son home!!!!<br /><br />Well, as you can guess, no call came. I finally called our agency. To sum it up, they don't really have any information to give. She was pretty sure we were not submitted, and did not give any idea of when we would be. Nothing at all hopeful to go on. At all. When I asked about the first batch situation, she clarified that was "an assumption". Would have been nice to have that clarification as soon as she said it in December since I had been holding onto that conversation this entire time. So, we were not getting a travel call that day, this week, this month, probably not even next month. It's looking more and more like March....or worst April or later. <br /><br />I'm not going to lie, I cried. A lot. I'm just so emotionally exhausted from all of this. I want him home so badly it physically hurts. Tuesday and Wednesday were very bad days with lots of puffy eyes! But, my crying didn't do anything to change the situation. In reality, we are with Holt and their travel takes much longer than <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_7" class="blsp-spelling-error">SWS</span>, which is who most of my friends are with. It's not a surprise they got their travel call at all. I decided that instead of having a pity party for myself, I was going to be positive about this...as much as I can!<br /><br />It sucks that we will not be there by his birthday. I mean, it just does. It sucks for every family to have to wait like this, it doesn't matter how long they have waited or what their situation is. I've said it before, adoption is not for the faint at heart and boy I've learned that lesson over and over again this week. So, I'm just going to be thankful that Asher is with an amazing foster family who is taking great care of him. Thankful he had a good January check up. Thankful in knowing that this wait Does have an end. We Will be in Korea soon. So for now I'm still trying to keep busy and February is turning out to be action packed..and the shortest month of the year thank goodness...so maybe it will fly by. We still have to get his room straighten up and now I have time to learn some Korean phases (I love you, thank you, etc.) that I really wanted to learn before we traveled. <br /><br />Thanks everyone for your support this past week and kind words. It's really meant a lot to have such great friends!!!!BrandiBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12014157633972260183noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6243199737413100429.post-6591572282342457692011-01-10T15:44:00.005-05:002011-01-10T15:59:12.293-05:00Some travel advice?Nope, they haven't told us we can travel yet (though a girl can wish!!), but in this time of *patient* waiting for our travel call, I'm trying to go ahead and get things together because I know how crazy things will be then!<br /><br />So, I'm looking for travel advice. I've never booked a flight in my life, so we <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">definitely</span> think it's worth the extra money to get a travel agent for this, but I'm looking for advice for the flight. What is something you suggest for a flight for us and also for Asher? Keep in mind the flight from Korea to Chicago will be 14 hours...yup. Not for the faint at heart! How the heck will I keep him occupied for 14 hours in a seat?? 5 hour energy will be my friend I suspect :-) At least Chicago to Raleigh is only 2 1/2 hrs!<br /><br />If you've been to Korea, we would love to know must see places. We've gotten a couple of books and read them, but it's always great to hear about other experiences! I figure if I do a little bit each week of packing and planning, then not only will it hopefully keep me occupied, but I will be prepared when the call comes in. Last week I got all of Asher's laundry done (and crib set up and made!) and I have to admit you couldn't wipe the smile off my face folding those sweet little clothes. Ask me again in a few months when I'm up to my eyeballs in laundry for 5 people if I'm smiling while folding!!!<br /><br />So, we are waiting without really knowing anything right now. Everything on US side is done and all of the final approvals and documents were sent to the Embassy in Seoul last Friday. Now they will sit waiting until the <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP</span> (<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">Emigration</span> Permit) is approved. This is where the mystery is. There was such a backlog from last year (all agencies ran out before the year was over because Korea has been decreasing the amount of <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_3" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP's</span> every year) and I'm sure everyone sent in <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_4" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP's</span> from all over. We are still praying Asher was submitted last week, but our agency cannot find any of that out to tell us. They said they will only know when it's approved. If it was indeed submitted last week, we could have approval by the end of the month! Travel call usually comes a week or two after that, so we would be there in February by his birthday! If it was not submitted in January, it would be submitted in February and we would be praying to travel in March. I just feel like we will be there by his birthday. I even bought him a birthday shirt to celebrate with him. I'm trying not to get my hopes up, but at the same time I pray everyday and know that what is impossible with man, is certainly possible with God.<br /><br />The next few weeks will be nail <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_5" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">biting</span>! If we don't hear anything by the first week of February, we know we should be in the next batch for <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_6" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP's</span>. Please pray with us that he has already been submitted and please please feel free to leave any travel advice with kids you have!!!BrandiBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12014157633972260183noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6243199737413100429.post-39197057145174476322011-01-03T20:29:00.004-05:002011-01-03T20:47:45.010-05:00Dreaming of my baby todayAnd I cannot seem to think of anything else! <br /><br />I have a great group of adoptive moms in my area and asked if any of them knew how long it takes to get <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP</span> approval once you have submitted. I am hearing back around 4 weeks...6 at the most. Really?? Awesome! That means we actually may have a chance of getting Asher by his birthday (Feb 21st)! Of course I know that every situation is different, but this just made me so excited today! Plus getting the official I-600 approval in the mail today made it even better :-)<br /><br />I feel like I have so much to do. I am sitting down tomorrow and putting together a to do list to keep me accountable and make me feel better about all of it. I need to go back through some of the places to see and do in Korea, figure out what we need to pack and look at some of the hotels and figure out around what our <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">airfare</span> may be if we travel in February. We have his crib up, but everything else is just laying on the floor. Clothes to wash, baby carriers to figure out, his special bag to pack...my head is spinning!BrandiBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12014157633972260183noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6243199737413100429.post-40448134657134287772010-12-31T22:17:00.004-05:002010-12-31T22:32:12.572-05:00Dancing that I-600 approval dance!!!Oh buddy...we are moving as quickly as we can to get to you!!<br /><br />So, we had submitted our I-600 on Dec 10<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-error">th</span>. I followed up the next week just to see if they had received it and was so bummed to hear we were not even in their system. I was so worried something had happened. Of course, I go out to the mailbox and what is there? Notice of action! What was I so anxious for? They had received it! Not sure what happened with that, but I was just so thankful they got it! I emailed the next week to follow up and see if it had been assigned with an officer yet. I knew the holidays would slow us up quite a bit, but I could hope right? So the same lady emailed back saying that indeed the holidays would slow us up and it would be at least another week before it would be assigned to be reviewed. I was sad, but figured that would happened. I continued to pray however. I've been praying the entire time for an approval before December. Even when our agency told us it wouldn't happen.<br /><br />So, we went out of town for Christmas and got back on Thursday. I started going through my emails and had received one from the same lady I had spoken to before. Curious I opened it and guess what?? She processed it for us! Wow! Unbelievable! So our I-600 should be received in Korea Embassy next week! What a wonderful way to end 2010! And what a blessing! I tried, but I just could not put in words how grateful I was to this officer. She didn't have to do that and we are forever grateful to her!<br /><br />So now, we wait to see what happens with the <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP</span> situation. For those not in the middle of this right now, Asher needs his Emigration Permit to be able to travel. All adoption agencies in Korea ran out of these before 2010 was up. Some ran out as early as April, so there are folks that have had their referrals and just been waiting since April. I cannot imagine the heartache they must feel. Our agency ran out in the middle of November, so I am waiting to hear back on how this will affect us. Pretty much there is a very large waiting line of families that received their referrals in 2010 and all they need are these <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP's</span>. Can you imagine how crazy Monday is going to be in the Korean Embassy?!<br /><br />So our agency feels good that Asher will be submitted in the first batch since he is a special needs child, but we don't have a clear idea of how long these take to get approval. Our agency still feels we are looking at March at best, but I am praying for before March (if you are reading and have any insight on how long <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_3" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP</span> approvals take for Korea, please! leave me a comment~). So right now, we have done everything we can. We seriously just sit and wait for our travel call. We have 10 business days to leave for Korea after that to go get him. <br /><br />There is just so much to do! I feel like even though they are telling me possibly March, that I need to be getting ready. We switched all of the rooms this week and put the crib up. I still need to wash everything and there are several things I still need to get in preparation for our trip....we did buy our <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_4" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">luggage</span> tonight though! <br /><br />So, we humbly ask that you keep us in your prayers. Please pray that we are able to bring Asher home before March. He has been sick and in the hospital already this winter with lung issues, so we are certainly eager to get him here. We've seen the power of prayer in action this last month and are praying to have him home by his birthday (Feb 21st)!<br /><br />Hope you all have a wonderful New Year and cannot wait to follow along and hear how awesome 2011 treats you!!!BrandiBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12014157633972260183noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6243199737413100429.post-63377311442156295212010-12-21T17:34:00.004-05:002010-12-21T17:55:05.639-05:00This is what I am supposed to be doing<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-error">Oooo</span>...touchy subject today.<br /><br />So, if you've been reading my blog for a while, you know that I just left my job this past April. I was not one of those moms that always knew I wanted to be a stay at home mom. I thought to be a stay at home mom you had to have the following traits...<br /><br />*Patience never ending<br />*A craft closet constantly full<br />*Home baked cookies ALWAYS made and ready<br />*The cleanest house, ever, no matter what<br />*The knowledge to handle any kid situation<br /><br />Phew. That seemed like quite a tall order and I don't know about you, but as hard as I might try I fail miserably at trying to be super woman. So anyway, I worked. I enjoyed working and our kids were in a great daycare. Then we moved. Had to change departments to keep my job and let's just say our daycare was not anything to be excited about. The longer and longer my hours got, the more and more time I missed from my family, the more I started to feel like this just wasn't me. I wasn't happy at all. I felt like I was failing at my job because I couldn't work 20 hours a day and failing as a mom because I couldn't be with them 24 hours a day. I'm not sure exactly when it happened, but I just started thinking more and more about being a stay at home mom (<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-error">SAHM</span>). I reached out to a few I knew and asked them tons of questions. These were women I had know for years...how the heck did they do it? Did they have perfectly decorated and cleaned houses, picture perfect kids, dinner on the table by 6 every night with a smile on their faces?<br /><br />Uh, not exactly. I learned that being a <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-error">SAHM</span> is not at all what I thought I was like. I thought I had long hours with my job! I thought on it some more and finally brought it up to my husband. Much to his (and mine) delight, he was completely on board! We would make the change once our little man came home. As you can guess, we jumped the gun.<br /><br />Months before we had a referral, we changed our plan and I put in my notice. I was scared to death. How would this work out financially? How will our kids react? What will I do all day (yes, I really thought this for awhile)? Will I miss the challenge of my job? Will I miss seeing grown folks?<br /><br />Well, I'm not going to lie and say the first couple of months were gravy. They were hard. We learned a lot about some things that we just failed at as parents and certainly had "parenting <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_3" class="blsp-spelling-error">bootcamp</span>" with mommy home 24-7. I won't go into details, but I wore out every parenting book I owed and even bought more. Every week seemed to get better....we were finally settling in.<br /><br />Looking back over the last few months, I can honestly say I feel for the first time in my life I'm doing what I should be doing. I went from a career obsessed mom to family centered mom. Our faith and our family have never been stronger. Of course there are still tough days and certainly will be to come, but it's so nice to finally find where I belong. <br /><br />Being on both sides (working and staying at home), I have to say that being a mom in general is one of the most hard and rewarding things you can do. I always hate to read about folks that hear that one side is "better" than the other or get questioned for their choices. No matter where you are in life, I say that if you are loving your children with all you have and providing for them a loving home and support, you are being a great parent!!!BrandiBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12014157633972260183noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6243199737413100429.post-39119629471074952882010-12-19T15:47:00.004-05:002010-12-19T15:56:31.378-05:00When I meet you<div>When the day comes I've been praying for....when I finally meet you.......</div><div></div><br /><div>All this worry will fade</div><div></div><br /><div>All this anxiety will be forgotten</div><div></div><br /><div>I will have you in my arms. Forever. </div><div></div><br /><div>I will be the one getting up at night (hopefully you will be gracious to this mama!)</div><div></div><br /><div>Bathing you. Feeding you. Changing you. </div><div></div><br /><div>Watching you and learning all about you. </div><div></div><br /><div>I will always wonder and pray for your birth mom and foster family.</div><div></div><br /><div>I pray blessing for them.</div><div></div><br /><div>But for now, I dream of you. I wait for you. I pray for you to come home soon.</div><div> </div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjhPG_zzlTlHNdOvz99_9Oo4O0VrSSzbcaLSa2Db62S06NkTIniLZW3ixaPyHskf-g7pJ0r8LcgcKzbT4Mzi7l3ECLKDf2o9NYWolHHYQV8qcP4qfQEMygDgRC9F2HG2qrRGPgw8ZUCL40/s1600/K2010-0135B%255B1%255D.JPG"><img style="WIDTH: 168px; HEIGHT: 251px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5552499800143771826" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjhPG_zzlTlHNdOvz99_9Oo4O0VrSSzbcaLSa2Db62S06NkTIniLZW3ixaPyHskf-g7pJ0r8LcgcKzbT4Mzi7l3ECLKDf2o9NYWolHHYQV8qcP4qfQEMygDgRC9F2HG2qrRGPgw8ZUCL40/s320/K2010-0135B%255B1%255D.JPG" /></a><br /><div></div><br /><div></div>BrandiBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12014157633972260183noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6243199737413100429.post-83887175780361622732010-12-16T13:43:00.005-05:002010-12-16T14:04:21.480-05:00This is how my life is going to go....Pardon my mood to share things that are not really glowing about myself, but I have to say I have a wonderful time planning...seriously, it's a sickness that I love it so much. I love being able to look ahead and know *exactly* what I will be doing, whether that be tomorrow or 5 years from now. It makes me feel "in control" of everything going on. It makes me feel like I am prepared for anything....like I really have my stuff together and have this whole life stuff figured out.<br /><br />I've been speaking with several folks lately that are in just the beginning stages of thinking about adoption...and they are currently thinking of everything they can that would prevent them from doing it. They are thinking about their savings account, their retirement plans, their homes, their current family. Don't get me wrong, these things absolutely have to be thought about, and <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">thoroughly</span> before stepping into an adoption. However, if we allowed our "plans for our lives" to <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">dictate</span> this adoption, it simply would not have happened.<br /><br />I was not one of those folks that always knew I would adopt. It's not like I had anything against it at all, I just didn't know a lot about it and really had never spoken to anyone or knew anyone that had done it, until my friend adopted from <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">Ethiopia</span>. We had planned to have 3 children, but after Reece's scary delivery, decided we were blessed to have two and moved on..continuing to plan every step of the way. We had plans for every cent in our account, plans for the girls, plans for our vacations, next homes we were going to buy, work plans...you know that American dream...we had it down pat! We did not plan, however, to be completely overwhelmed and to have our eyes opened like we did. <br /><br />I said to myself over and over again while I was looking at adoption initially (of course telling myself I was helping my friend by researching..but everyday growing more and more curious myself) that this was not a calling for us. How would we afford it? That's not exactly where we planned for our money to go. Looking back now I cannot believe how incredibly selfish we were, but I am just being honest here. Financial fear is a real roadblock to adoption, not only the cost but also just affording another baby in the family. I would try and fit it into my neatly planned box, but it just never quite fit. I would try and move on, but I just never could. <br /><br />And now, I cannot imagine our lives without Asher..and he's not even here yet! Just getting organized to move the rooms around has me filled with <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_3" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">excitement</span>! Oh my the joys and blessings our family would have missed out on by not taking that leap...by letting go of what we thought our lives could be and letting go to what God knew our lives *should* be. I laugh now when we used to sit around and think of how things would be 5 years from now. It's awesome to let it go and trust God. I would have never thought our life would look like this 5 years ago and I cannot imagine how it will be 5 years from now. All we know is we are not going to let our idea of how much money we should have in the account, how big a house we should have, how many children we should have, how much our 401K should be, what cars we should own or what the rest of the world is thinking dictate our lives again. Seems that real life has put all of our dreams to shame!!!BrandiBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12014157633972260183noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6243199737413100429.post-78832663210427091712010-12-11T11:07:00.004-05:002010-12-11T11:17:34.370-05:00We feel goodWe.Feel.Good. <br /><br />It's been awhile since I've been able to say that. Not anxious. Not angry. Not scared. Just good.<br /><br />We've been hard at work trying to get things together for Asher. We do have two girls, but kept <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">absolutely</span> nothing, so it's been starting over for us...but so much fun! It's been fun to look at bedding, pick out a crib and all of that all over again! I am trying to pace myself and only buy things that may take a while to ship in so I don't run out of things to keep me busy. I'm hoping if I stay busy getting prepared that the wait will maybe not be too unbearable :-)<br /><br />I'm a planner, so I'm trying to go ahead and make a list of must <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-error">have's</span> for travel. Our agency says they will send a travel packet, but we haven't received it yet and maybe they don't send until we get travel call....which will make me insane because we leave like that next week after that and that doesn't give me ANY time to make sure I have things together! So, while I feel good about prepping the house for baby, travel is a whole other issue. Bobby and I have neither been out of the country...in fact, we have never traveled on a plane together. I'm thinking if we hired a camera crew to follow us through this journey to Seoul we might make some money putting together a comedy!<br /><br />So, advice needed for this planning mama. What do you suggest for traveling with baby? Traveling with husband? Surviving the planning phase? What is a must have in Korea? What to leave special for our two sweet girls that will be waiting for us back home? Something special to give to the foster family?<br /><br />So, pretty much unless I have it staged out and ready to go I will feel in over my head (and will probably feel that way anyway! And this makes me feel like I'm doing SOMETHING during a wait when nothing is happening.) I am all ears for any advice anyone has!!!!!BrandiBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12014157633972260183noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6243199737413100429.post-23204111182890334792010-12-08T22:15:00.004-05:002010-12-08T22:35:35.084-05:00Yay for us!!!!!Sorry, another delay in my adoption overview posts to share some adoption news of my own.<br /><br />This last month has <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">definitely</span> been the hardest through this whole adoption....harder than making the decision to adopt. Harder than waiting 3 months through the <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">home study</span> process. Even harder than waiting nearly 14 months for a referral. But, my friends I am happy to report the last wait referral wise was completed today, a month after asking to move forward with Asher :-)<br /><br />The state FINALLY got off their tails and faxed over that last page. Yes folks, one last page that someone *forgot* to send along and then never responded back for almost 2 weeks over. It's done. I met my social worker today, got our updated <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">home study</span> and proudly paid an insane amount to over night it to WA to my agency tomorrow. And the best news? They felt like they could also turn around getting out the I-600 tomorrow as well. Sweet. We are on our way now!!<br /><br />So, this I-600 approval (where the US gov. says we are approved to adopt this specific child) takes anywhere from 1 month to 3 1/2 months...with no rhyme or reason why it can be shorter or longer. Ugh. There is no way to expedite it either I'm told. I know several other adoptive moms have told me you can call the office and check your status, and depending upon your officer, you may be able to find something out. I'm going to give it some time of course, but I'd much rather follow up with them every couple of weeks just for my sanity and peace of mind to know at least it's getting some sort of attention and not sitting in <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_4" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">some one's</span> inbox! This is our son we are talking about here!!<br /><br />After this I-600 approval is received (hopefully in January!), then it will be sent to Korea and everything on that side can start. If we can get included in the <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_5" class="blsp-spelling-error">EP</span> (emmigrant permits) batch and not have to wait on those (fat chance since there is already a 2 month back up), there's a chance we will be able to travel maybe a month or two after the I-600 approval. I'm keeping my fingers crossed and my prayers lifted high, but also keeping an understanding of how things can get delayed...especially with the holidays coming up too. <br /><br />I celebrated today by getting some things for Asher's care package. We are able to send whatever we can shove into a gallon sized bag over for him. That's not a lot of room! I bought way too much stuff and we are now trying to figure out what to include....I'll post a picture once we make the final decision :-)<br /><br />I got a few outfits, but it's so hard to figure out sizes. His weight and length do not match up nicely with the sizing charts here in the US....and who knows how he will grow in the next few months. I have to admit after years of shopping for girl clothes, the boys really do get the raw end of the <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_6" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">bargain</span>...there is so much more for girls!<br /><br />Anyway, he has the <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_7" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">beginnings</span> of a room and we are gradually picking things up. We have the crib, bedding set, stroller, pack and play, high chair and some clothes. We, however, have no toddler boy toys, so this is something we <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_8" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">definately </span>need to get busy with or else he will be playing with barbies :-)<br /><br /><span id="SPELLING_ERROR_9" class="blsp-spelling-error">Kyleigh</span> wants to move into our bonus room, so we are pretty much switching everyone around...<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_10" class="blsp-spelling-error">Kyleigh</span> to the bonus room, Reece to <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_11" class="blsp-spelling-error">Kyleigh's</span> room, Asher to Reece's room...round and round we go! I want to go ahead and move everyone around after Christmas. I would love to say because we would be getting Asher soon then, but more for Reece's adjustment. She will use any excuse not to sleep and I can only imagine the ones she will come up with during all of this!<br /><br />So, <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_12" class="blsp-spelling-error">YAY</span>! Happy week for us! I just wanted to say thanks again to all of the encouraging words everyone from this blog and FB has left. It has truly meant so much! To top it off, another adoptive mommy friend is in Korea right now and it's been so awesome to follow along her journey along with another one expecting her travel call <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_13" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">any day</span> this week/next week. I'm so happy for all of them and it just gets me so excited!!!BrandiBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12014157633972260183noreply@blogger.com2